Facing the enemies within

We are not born with courage, but neither are we born with fear. Maybe some of our fears are brought on by your own experiences, by what someone has told you, by what you've read in the papers. Some fears are valid, like walking alone in a bad part of town at two o'clock in the morning. But once you learn to avoid that situation, you won't need to live in fear of it.

Fears, even the most basic ones, can totally destroy our ambitions. Fear can destroy fortunes. Fear can destroy relationships. Fear, if left unchecked, can destroy our lives. Fear is one of the many enemies lurking inside us.

Let me tell you about five of the other enemies we face from within. The first enemy that you've got to destroy before it destroys you is indifference. What a tragic disease this is. "Ho-hum, let it slide. I'll just drift along." Here's one problem with drifting: you can't drift your way to the top of the mountain.

The second enemy we face is indecision. Indecision is the thief of opportunity and enterprise. It will steal your chances for a better future. Take a sword to this enemy.

The third enemy inside is doubt. Sure, there's room for healthy skepticism. You can't believe everything. But you also can't let doubt take over. Many people doubt the past, doubt the future, doubt each other, doubt the government, doubt the possibilities and doubt the opportunities. Worse of all, they doubt themselves. I'm telling you, doubt will destroy your life and your chances of success. It will empty both your bank account and your heart. Doubt is an enemy. Go after it. Get rid of it.

The fourth enemy within is worry. We've all got to worry some. Just don't let it conquer you. Instead, let it alarm you. Worry can be useful. If you step off the curb in New York City and a taxi is coming, you've got to worry. But you can't let worry loose like a mad dog that drives you into a small corner. Here's what you've got to do with your worries: drive them into a small corner. Whatever is out to get you, you've got to get it. Whatever is pushing on you, you've got to push back.

The fifth interior enemy is over-caution. It is the timid approach to life. Timidity is not a virtue (unlike humility – they are different); in fact, it can be an illness. If you let it go, it'll conquer you. Timid people don't get promoted. They don't advance and grow and become powerful in the marketplace. You've got to avoid over-caution.

Do battle with the enemy. Do battle with your fears. Build your courage to fight what's holding you back, what's keeping you from your goals and dreams. Be courageous in your life and in your pursuit of the things you want and the person you want to become.

To Your Success,
Jim Rohn

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Jealousy for what?

Jealousy.. aahh its a factor or say emotion that is rooted deep in our blood and soul. Some people come across with this emotion in some stages/phases/moments in their life, for other's it is a lifetime ordeal. Ordeal.. is it a ordeal?! Most people will think its natural to be jealous, even a two-year old feels jealous -stated in a recent study- then whats the big deal. Let me tell you why it is an ordeal. First of all, there is a big difference in thinking patterns of a baby and an adult because of the growth of their mind. Jealousy is a torture for your ownself. The other person won't get any harm from it. It is you who will suffer. When you are jealous of somebody, this means you are lacking something either tangible or intangible. You think that why you don't have it or maybe I can't do it. It just lowers your own self-esteem, cultivate anger and negative emotions which can be a reason for depression in future. It is like self-mutation.. hurting your ownself. So if you love yourself then next time when you feel jealous just think about the positive elements of your life and the blessings which make you lucky, irrespective of whether other person has it or no. Its about you and only you, one should not compare himself with others in a negative way because every individual is different and their whole background is different. If you like some trait in others, try hard to attain it or else just don't feel envy for him/her.

"The strongest man is he who can fight against himself"
-Hazrat Ali

The Cold Within

Six humans trapped by happenstance, in bleack and bitter cold,
Each one possessed a stick of wood, or so the story's told.

Their dying fire in need of logs, the first man held his back,
For the faces 'round the fire, he noticed one was black.

The next man looking 'cross the way saw one not of his church,
And couldn't bring himself to give the fire his stick of birch.

The third one sat in tattered clothes; he gave his coat a hitch,
Why should his log be put to use to warm the idle rich.

The rich man just sat back and thought of the wealth he had in store,
And how to keep what he had earned from the lazy, shiftless poor.

The black man's face bespoke revenge as the fire passed from sight,
For all he saw in his stick of wood was a chance to spite the white.

The last man of this forlorn group did naught except for gain,
Giving only to those who gave was how he played the game.

Their logs held tight in death's still hand was proof of human sin,
They didn't die from the cold without-they died from the cold within.
-unknown

....truely inspiring poem, had enuff substance to captivate me. I hope you have also learned something from it. It better to help and share then collecting things because that what makes us true humans.

How To Handle Yourself and Situations When You Get Upset

Norman Vincent Peale in one his books writes a great action plan for motivating ourselves during adversity,

How To Handle Yourself and Situations When You Get Upset

1. Analyse the situation carefully and determine if you acted unwisely. Admit all your mistakes openly and honestly, telling the whole truth and admitting your ineptness.

2. Utilize the scientific-objective approach to mean or unkind things said about you, asking yourself: Is it true or false? Who said it? Is this opinion of any value? Is he a prejudiced or honest critic?

3. Apply cool scientific scruntiny to any epithets and against you, tkaing them apart in a detailed examination to see if they apply. If they do, correct yourself. If they don't, forget it.

4. Keep on esteeming people even when they act badly toward you.

5. Ask another dispassionate question. Did this person have right to take the action he did? If so, accept it in good faith.

6. Seek the counsel and guidance of thoughtful friends and practice all the cool reason and common sense of which you are capable. Hard as it may be, you must think; you must use reason, not emotion. Any turmaoil will ultimately settle down if you do that. And you will get answers that answer.

7. Ask yourself, "Am I enjoying my misery?" Cast off all self-pity.

8. Try loving everyone involved and pray for them, hard as they may be. Loving doesn't mean sentimentality but rather a rational esteem for them as persons.

9. Put the problem in God's hands, let go and let God take it over. He will bring it out better than you think.

To sum it up: Be optimistic, rational and insenstive to emotions. Have Faith in God!!